I wrote a book, and it almost killed me. I hit publish, and it’s up on Amazon. But what started out as a personal experiment felt like it would be the end of me. 

Nice guys often find themselves stuck in the friend zone, unable to make that romantic connection with the women they're interested in. There are even married folks, whose sex lives suffer becuase they are too nice–its crazy! This persistent lack of romantic success can lead to a deep sense of isolation and feelings of inadequacy. It's not just about being alone, it's about feeling invisible and undervalued despite their apparent niceness and unspoken intentions.

What is the real cost of being nice? Being nice has long been praised as a virtue. Can the price of being nice be too high? We will explore the personal impacts of always putting others first, using the concept of the "Nice Guy Rebel" and the "Mr. Nice Guy" as examples.

I've been writing and speaking about leading and living with integrity for years. Much of what I’ve learned, tested, and proved is in this book, but I was never able to say it so bluntly before. Looking around at men, especially those in the church, I realized this message—overcome people-pleasing—was an essential part of my life’s work.

Have you ever felt overwhelmed by the constant pressure to fix the world's problems? If you have, you're not alone. Many of us feel a deep sense of responsibility to help those around us and positively impact the world. This drive often stems from a sense of duty or moral obligation. Still, it can become an addiction that leaves you drained and unfulfilled. Despite your best efforts, saving everyone is impossible, and you must learn to accept your limitations.

Being nice often gets you accepted. People find it easy to like you because you're agreeable, non-confrontational, and generally easy to get along with. But acceptance is not intimacy. Acceptance is shallow; it's built on the absence of friction, not the presence of genuine connection. Intimacy is messy. It comes with highs and lows, disagreements and reconciliations. It involves being seen, flaws and all, and being loved not in spite of them but because of them. When you trade your authentic self for a version that is easier for people to accept, you trade intimacy for mere acceptance.